What I learnt about good and bad relationships?

There are many types of relationships: familial, romantic or intimate, professional, and friendly or brotherly. I learned that any good relationship is important to our lives and bad relationships dries up our lives and cut our lives short. In this post, I would emphasise the pros of having a good relationship more, than the cons of having a bad relationship. Now, why is a good relationship important?

  1. Healthy physical body – according to one of the longest study held by The Harvard Study of Adult Development (HSAD) team, they have tracked lives of 724 men and tune in on their lives, the clearest message they have found in their study is people who have good quality relationships with friends, family, and community have healthier bodies due to their happiness. While people who are isolated, their health diminishes as time flies by due to their sorrowful life. Another support for this learning, is a proverb from the bible “A cheerful heart is a good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones” Proverbs 17:22
  2. Healthy mental health – according to HSAD team, connections are really good for our mental health and loneliness or isolation simply kills. Commercial: I have actually watched the movie “Into the Wild” and I recommend that you watch it. Going back to the study, some of the men in their study developed schizophrenia, alcoholism, and even depressions. Robert Waldinger, the director of the study, shared in his TED talk that good relationships protect our brains, people who have better relationship stay sharp while those who are lonely their memory declines. Good mental health is equals to good relationship; good relationships means good communication. Another proverb says “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” – Proverbs 16:24
  3. Happier life – The reason why the HSAD team started the study is to figure out what makes a good life? And a good life means a happy life. Everybody desires this one, the pursuit to happiness, but little did people know that this study is not as original, although I like this one as well because it is scientific and methodological. However,  there is also an observation made by Solomon in Ecclesiastes and he shared the the pros of companionship – “I observed yet another example of something meaningless under the sun.This is the case of a man who is all alone, without a child or a brother, yet who works hard to gain as much wealth as he can. But then he asks himself, “Who am I working for? Why am I giving up so much pleasure now?” It is all so meaningless and depressing. Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:7-9

These are the lessons I have learned regarding relationships. This topic can be branched out to many topics from building relationships, loneliness, isolations, and many more. I say, don’t worry and I’ll share my opinions regarding those topics with conviction and understanding and I’ll reference my learnings as well (via faith, principles, testimonies, and science) so keep posted and stay tune!

Click on the References:

What makes a good life by Robert Waldinger

Into the Wild Movie

The Holy Bible